Anonymous asked is it bad that catcalling gives me an ego boost?
i get how you would think that. i do. i was there when i was 14-15 and my self-esteem was so bad that ANY attention was good attention to me but please
please never mistake catcalling/sexual harassment on the street as anything other than just that
it’s not a compliment, it’s not anything positive it is awful and disrespectful and fucking so so so dehumanizing
your body isn’t on display for those fucking shitheads to comment on, to sexualize as they please and you are not an object.
you are a complex, whole, realized, beautiful human being and they have NO fucking right to infringe on your personal place to let you know that they think your ass is nice
it’s not a compliment. it’s insulting, and i understand where you might take enjoyment from that but it’s such a poisonous mindset to be in because you’re not a sexual thing for these scumbag shitstain assholes to comment on
one day someone is going to see you for the radiant and magnificent human being that you are but until that day please never look at what those people do as a compliment
they don’t see you for what you are, they don’t care about your hopes and dreams and all that other shit that makes you you — you’re a pair of tits and an ass to them and fuck that FUCK that shit because you’re not
i’ve dealt with this shit since i was 12 and i have NO tolerance for it and i hope someday that you’re in this mentality too, friend
because the people who catcall are on the lowest end of human evolution and deserve to be punched in the face with a fist reinforced with fucking adamantium
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friendly reminder that it’s okay to cry
i don’t care what happened, if a fictional character got hurt, or if an actor died, or if one of your friends made a ‘joke’ that hurt you, or you’re just having a shitty day, or even for no reason at all
it is always okay to cry
stregaborgia asked I, K, X
I: a song that gives me butterflies
My boyfriend sings and so I have some things he recorded just for me and they’re love songs and i can’t think of them without blushing but his cover of Be Still is really cute.
K: a song I know all the lyrics to
Oh Comely by Neutral Milk Hotel has a LOT of lyrics but I know them all and they’re beautiful.
X: a cover
Yael Naim’s cover of Toxic is so hauntingly beautiful.
Women, too, have been socialized to believe that the ultimate arbiters of their appearance are men, that anything they do with their appearance is or should be “for men.” That’s why women’s magazines trip over themselves to offer up advice on “what he wants to see you wearing” and “what men think of these current fashion trends” and “wow him with these new hairstyles.” While women can and do judge each other’s appearance harshly, many of us grew up being told by mothers, sisters, and female strangers that we’ll never “get a man” or “keep a man” unless we do X or lose some fat from Y, unless we moisturize//trim/shave/push up/hide/show/”flatter”/paint/dye/exfoliate/pierce/surgically alter this or that.
That’s also why when a woman wears revealing clothes, it’s okay, in our society, to assume that she’s “looking for attention” or that she’s a slut and wants to sleep with a bunch of guys. Because why else would a woman wear revealing clothes if not for the benefit of men and to communicate her sexual availability to them, right? It can’t possibly have anything to do with the fact that it’s hot out or it’s more comfortable or she likes how she looks in it or everything else is in the laundry or she wants to get a tan or maybe she likes women and wants attention from them, not from men?
The result of all this is that many men, even kind and well-meaning men, believe, however subconsciously, that women’s bodies are for them. They are for them to look at, for them to pass judgment on, for them to bless with a compliment if they deign to do so. They are not for women to enjoy, take pride in, love, accept, explore, show off, or hide as they please. They are for men and their pleasure.
this is literally so insanely fucking important fucking hell fuckity fuckkkkkk(via pixiepienix)